Recently, friends often ask me: How to love yourself and heal yourself?
In this topic, I want to share with you my experience, feelings and feelings, and I do not know if I can answer you.
What is true self-love? I have summarized following aspects:
1. To love yourself, you must first take good care of your body.
2. To love yourself, you must accept yourself, allow yourself, and know yourself.
Accept your strengths and weaknesses, accept your differences - behaviors, needs, thoughts, decisions, good, bad, fat, thin, etc.; allow yourself to make mistakes, allow yourself to fail, to surrender to Reality; sort beyond past, there is no right or wrong, only a staged choice, no self-blame, no guilt, no regret, acknowledge past mistakes and at same time see it as an opportunity to learn; recognize what we have done, do a good job Place.
3. Love yourself and be yourself.
Respect yourself and others, separate topics well, and respect your own boundaries. God's deeds, other people's deeds and your own deeds, separate people and things, do not judge, do not force, do not feel resentful, trust yourself and others, do not steal or bind your emotions to others. . At same time, I know that I am not a savior, parents, children, husbands and relatives have their own life scenarios, do not interfere, do not get carried away in water, allow yourself to stabilize, hold back and do not help blindly.
4. Loving yourself means giving yourself both spiritual and material satisfaction.
Please yourself, have your own interests and hobbies, connect with your feelings at any time and expand your own world - change your knowledge, improve your horizons and develop; material aspect meets your needs and needs within your own abilities, do not need to Live in eyes of others, live according to your own will, do not blindly endure, endure, offend yourself, choke yourself. Satisfying your own needs, enriching and nourishing yourself, giving yourself physical and mental pleasures - this is beginning of self-love.
5. Loving yourself means having courage to express yourself and say no.
6. Loving yourself means truly living in present, feeling present, not regretting or suffering about past, not worrying about future.
7.Loving yourself means being thicker-skinned and bolder.Under line of law and essence of life, health and safety, let yourself live more cheerfully!
How do you feel? Since our real life is trivial and complex, it is really difficult to love yourself. Yes, but if you're willing to give it a try and start doing it, it's actually a lot easier:
To love yourself means to dare to take off your burden and mask and become realyourself.
Love yourself, you can start small, like me:
Today I started going to training to relax a bit. I used to refuse to go to training and feel like I can't leave house.
I don’t want to cook today, so I won’t cook, let my husband and children do it;
I haven't had gossip with my friends for a long time, so why not make an appointment today;
I want to chase dramas, so I will follow them shamelessly and sincerely without any remorse;
A cold cake that neither my husband nor my daughter likes, but I like it, and I almost never bought it before. When I thought about loving myself, I bought a lot and put them in refrigerator to eat them every day;
The clothes that I did not want to buy, I bought back with a heart, and my family did not become impoverished because of clothes I bought, but I was satisfied;
I dragged on for a few years and didn't want to spend money to get an academic certificate. The day I realized that I should love myself, I finally paid money and signed up for name;
And so on.
Do you know? Then something magical happened:
I went to practice for a few days. Although my daughter and husband called me to complain about each other, I was pleasantly surprised to find that they can also find a suitable solution to problem. Without my biscuit sandwich, they can solve problem face to face, okay? Without my intervention, they can form a team for games and they cooperate very well;
Because I signed up for a new study, I have to attend classes every day, which is completely justified, and my husband and daughter help me with housework instead;
My husband and daughter are so happy when they see me eating a plate of cold pie. Later they never forget to bring me a cold cake when they go somewhere;
About a set of clothes that I did not want to buy, according to my husband: "Well, expensive for some reason is expensive, but temperament is different when you wear it";
I thought that if I was "crazy" watching dramas, if I missed cooking, my husband and daughter would be angry if they couldn't eat well. As a result, they agreed to order takeout and sent me a copy to computer desk, which did not affect my further work Dramatic Chase. I later found out that since I followed dramas, I wouldn't "bother them" and they would be happy, but how could they be mad because they had their own private time;
It turns out that satisfying your own needs will not only keep sky from falling, but also satisfy needs of others, and that's great! I also found that I feel better because of it, and people around me relax because of my relaxation.
Loving yourself is not selfish, and you don't need to put other people first in everything. Satisfy your own needs, get rich, love will overflow, love firstbut yourself, and then you can love others (husband, children, other people around you). I take it, so give it a try if you don't mind.
When you can love yourself, you will be healed! What are you saying?