Embarrassment caused by a scar on a child's hand
Recently, I took my daughter to several schools, especially private schools, and I couldn't help but wonder if there is a scar tattoo on my body, and I asked to see my hand and so on.
By way, our hands are full of scars!
Some school teachers understand situation and assess child's current situation by communicating with their daughters. When they hear that we have returned to school and passed high school entrance exams, they usually say nothing, saying that their children can enroll in their schools. After all, right now, private schools are still under a lot of pressure to enroll students on their own.
There are also some teachers who are afraid of these scars, expressing their surprise and incomprehension; even some teachers, seeing these scars, directly shake their heads, showing disgust on their faces.
In beginning, my daughter was full of confidence that she would go to interview, but later, when interview took place, she was a little scared and worried. Although she will make a psychological construct for herself: “It's okay, I want to impress selection committee with my active and positive state!” But she still feels very uncomfortable, especially teacher at interview shook her head again and again. , with an expression of disgust written all over her face. An expression, lingering.
"Mom, I want to heal my scars!"
"Mom, I want to fix scar!" The daughter finally took lead and came up with a solution.
I still remember when my daughter cut her hand, I worried and worried that these scars would greatly affect future of child. Helping, she said: First of all, you need to know why your child has this behavior, and secondly if you can't stop him, you can only be stronger yourself in first place: don't pass on this kind of anxiety and anxiety to your child, and empathize with his feelings, and at same time say to yourself: “So what if there are scars? Too many people with scars", "What's wrong with that." Finally, you should know that scars can be fixed! When child gets better and does not pay attention to scar, he will take initiative and ask you to heal scar. At that time, all you need to do is to actively cooperate and support child, find a reliable hospital and help her with healing of scar. Also remember, don't tell your kids things like, “I told you a long time ago that these scars will affect you. If you don't listen, I don't care now."
"Mom, I want to get into scar repair!" I was delighted when I heard my daughter's voice from bottom of my heart. Finally, I've been waiting for this day! In my opinion, this is another breakthrough for child.
Before, child would never shy away from these scars and would even deliberately show them to those around him: "I don't care, anyone who likes to talk can say that, I don't care!" don't care and was not shy. Or maybe inat time, she didn't have extra energy to take into account impact of those scars.
"At end of day, I can't just live in my own world. I have to get out and go to wider world. These scars will really bring a lot of burdens on me." The daughter expressed a desire to restore scars.
"Okay, let's go to hospital to sort it out." So, I took my daughter with me for two days to learn about scar repair from Internet, and then I went to two hospitals to find doctors to see scar on my daughter's arm. On doctor's recommendation, I chose a hospital that specializes in healing scars, that is, in afternoon we paid for treatment and performed first scar treatment. (Due to condition of scar on child’s hand, doctor needs to do five procedures with an interval of one month!)
After leaving hospital, my daughter was in a good mood and complained all time: “Let me say that doctor who consulted was in sales. Even though anesthesia is used, it still hurts... I suggest children like us who have scars to undergo rehabilitation treatment, and pain can only change past! This is deepest experience I have so far!
Scar Repair Inspiration
Today is third day after restoration treatment, when my daughter saw scar on her arm, which was being treated, she suddenly made a new decision: I will not get tattoos anymore! If you don't like tattoo, it is very difficult to remove it and it has to go through several treatments. It will still hurt! Just like doing this scar repair. If I want to get a tattoo at that time, I will choose tattoo method.
This is indeed a very important realization. It also made me let go of anxiety I used to have about her tattoos.
In regards to scar healing, my teacher told me that child took initiative to offer scar healing, which is indeed a sign of a dramatic improvement in child; it also means that child will say goodbye to past and start all over again; Moreover, we can also see My child, her energy is rising! This is a happy event.
As for healing of scar, doctor said that after five treatments, he can return to a state that cannot be seen from a social distance. We expect this effect. We also plan to complete three treatments this summer. I hope that when the new semester rolls around, my daughter will have a new fortune to welcome her yet another new starting point!