It's summer vacation again, and many out-of-school kids and their parents are busy getting ready for their kids to go back to school. Here 7 gadgets hope to help you.
Hugging is best way to bring people closer. Hugs give people joy and strength. Daily hugs from your child not only strengthen relationship between parents and children, but also help child recuperate.
"But child does not want me to hold him at all," some parents may say. Then we can send a request to child: “Mom needs hugs, baby, do you?”
2. List of error targets.
This is a very effective list of tools for positive discipline. Positive discipline assumes that behind every child's misbehavior lies a positive need. The Wrong Goals Scale divides goals of children's misbehavior (deviant behavior) into four categories: seeking attention/search for power/retribution/self-destruction. According to purpose of misbehavior, both chart and chart list parent's feelings, child's beliefs, and ways in which parent can help and empower child.
For example, if a baby clings to you and bothers you all day, and keeps screaming "mom, mom", it is actually seeking mother's attention; it doesn't make sense, mom, give me back, I'm hopeless." In fact, child sends you a distress signal: "Mom, don't leave me, mom, save me."
3. Development of abilities.
Most of us children who graduate from school are insecure. They lack a sense of control and achievement. We can teach children some life skills, empower them and increase their sense of control and achievement. For example, teach kids how to cook, clean room, teach us how to use apps, help us book tickets, hotels, etc.
4. Special time.
The so-called special time is special time of parents and children, which belongs only to you and your children. At this time, no one interrupts, no one talks about learning, no one preaches. All you can do is enjoy this special time with your children to fullest. For example, watch a movie together, watch dramas together, play games together, discuss hobbies together, etc.
5. Divide your to-do list and lighten load.
Despite resumption of school, children can still be confused, anxious and scared. It can be repeated repeatedly: “I don’t want to go to school anymore”, “I can’t hold on anymore”, “I want to withdraw from classes again, I don’t want to go to school” ... What should I do?
Together with your child, list and analyze difficulties you will have to face when entering school and on vacation, as well as problems you will face in future, present them in a numbered list, and then comprehensively evaluate importance of school attendance and rest from studies.
If child decides to go to school, we need to discuss with him how to solve difficulties. Find a solution to each difficulty and write it down one by one. This is division of tasks, clarification of difficulties and overcoming them one by one.
At same time, children are returning to school, and we need to help them learn to accept themselves and their shortcomings.
6. Managing interpersonal relationships, starting with topics that interest other side
Children who leave school and return to school, in addition to learning problems, most of them also have problems in interpersonal relationships. When faced with a new class of classmates, they will be greatly afraid. How to integrate into relationships with classmates after returning to school and gain a sense of belonging and value for them is a big problem.
We can teach kids to understand chat topics and classmates' concerns, such as what games they've played recently, what dramas they've been following, what stars they've liked, etc. Find a common topic with your classmates, look into their classmates. circle, and make connections with your classmates.
7. Pay attention to bright moments of children and continue to encourage them.
Facing children's repetitive emotions, parents also face serious challenges. We need to see bright side of children and give positive feedback. For example, we should see child's industriousness, not his grades; see perseverance of child instead of result; see courage of a child to try instead of failing after trying...
How to encourage children? Saying "thank you" to your child is a great way to encourage them. Use sentence “I” to describe a fact: “For example, I noticed that today you picked up trash and replaced it with a new trash bag. I saw that you went downstairs, took off garbage and threw it in trash can. Thanks, you took initiative to split housework; i found you took initiative to clean room today and it looked clean and tidy which made me feel very comfortable and warm thank you baby. and so on.
Here are some suggestions for kids to help:
*You worked hard, you deserve it;
*You will be proud of yourself;
*I think you will know what and how to choose;
*You yourself found a solution to problem;
*I believe you will learn from your mistakes;
*You decide what to do.
Three tips for parents of children going back to school:
1. Don't worry about what wasn't.
Some parents see their children repeatedly asked for time off after returning to school. It's awkward and uncomfortable. Go to university, what will you do in future? Then all sorts of worries and anxieties. However, do you know what your anxiety does not help and seriously exhausts you and your children. At this time, you can try to say to yourself: even if it is, so what? Are we not yet alive? Do what you can do right now, and leave rest to time and God.
2. Watch your mouth and move your feet.
In front of children during this special period, try not to say what you can say or don't know how to say, so as not to find fault and annoy people. Or frankly tell child: mom does not understand this issue, why don't we search for information together and discuss it together;
Besides, sometimes children show emotions and ask us questions just to vent their emotions, they do not need our suggestions and opinions. Therefore, we should listen well and maintain friendly relations, not offer, do not judge, do not blame, just be a quiet listener and give an answer in time, similar to “Well, this is it, really…”. just good.
Parents know that our children need sports, so we can do everything possible to create conditions for children to get involved in sports. First, it can take some time to find kind of sport your child likes. time to make yourself full of energy, which will naturally reflect on child.
3. Don't set high expectations for your child just because they're back in school.
We often see how some parents, as soon as their children go back to school, immediately ask and wait for their children, and then begin to remind and control their children's studies, and even actively find tutors and tutors. As everyone knows, you will repeat same mistakes and go back to old road. As for whether to take tutoring, I think that it is still necessary to respect opinions and ideas of children. Let him decide. You should be aware that returning to school after a suspension of learning will not go so smoothly, in process, children still need to face many challenges and take time to adapt to this process. In this process, we must help child to recover by helping child lead an active and normal life. Instead of making your studies and grades your top priority as soon as you arrive. Therefore, in addition to using tools mentioned above to help and encourage children, you need to accept, accept all impermanence, accept children for who they are, and let go of your high expectations.
It's all about relationships. Good parent-child relationships can help children return to school more easily. Summer holidays are also a good time to settle aboutrelationship between parents and children.